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It’s now widely known that sleep is at the core of a healthy, happy life. When it goes wrong, everything suffers – your immune system, your mood, your memory, your relationships. It’s perhaps the most basic of needs after food and water.

Insomnia is repeated difficulty in getting to sleep, staying asleep or getting enough good quality sleep, despite adequate opportunity, which leads to some form of impairment of performance or wellbeing during the daytime. If it occurs regularly or over a long period of time, it’s called chronic insomnia.

About one in three adults will have had some sort of problem with insomnia within the past 12 months. For most the problem is fairly short-lived, but for as many as one in ten it becomes a chronic problem which significantly affects their life.

There are many different patterns of insomnia. For example, one in three people with insomnia have no problem getting off to sleep but then wake in the early hours and cannot get back to sleep.

Causes of insomnia

A common trigger for sleeping difficulties is stress and worry. Some people are particularly vulnerable because they are more likely to show a more extreme response to stress, such as people who are depressed, chronically ill or struggling with other difficult issues such as relationship problems.

Other common causes include physical illness that causes pain, environmental noise, depression, shift work, caffeine or alcohol consumption, and medication side-effects. Other illnesses can disrupt sleep, such as menopausal hot flushes and urinary problems from infection or prostate disease causing night-time waking. Insomnia is much more common in older people.

Once triggered, sleep problems may then be perpetuated by the individuals beliefs and behaviours – they often worry excessively about the effect that inadequate sleep will have on them and so strive excessively hard to get to sleep, take daytime naps or sleep in late which can disrupt the natural rhythm, or turn to medicines or alcohol in the belief that this will help (most just induce unnatural patterns of sleep). A vicious cycle of poor sleep and stress is quickly set up and persists after the initial trigger has passed.

Insomnia contributes to excessive daytime tiredness, which in turn may be responsible for accidents, recurrent infections (inadequate sleep has been show to suppress the immune system), poor concentration, irritability, work and relationship problems and a general inability to cope. In children it may be linked to poor growth.

Treatment of insomnia

Sleeping tablets may be prescribed for short-term use only, when the cause of insomnia has been identified as  Grief, bereavement or jet lag, for example.

However, it’s usually more important to address any underlying cause of the insomnia and attempt to restore a normal sleep pattern through changes in behaviour and lifestyle.

Deal with issues and anxieties which may keep you awake worrying. Make sure your bedroom is dark, cool and unstimulating Make sure your bed is comfortable and not too hot. Try to follow a set routine, going to sleep and getting up at the same time and avoiding daytime naps, and don’t work or watch TV in your bedroom. Recent research has shown that the effect of cooling on the body, and particularly the brain, such as following a bath, shower or hairwashing, can induce sleep.

You should also try avoiding stimulants such as caffeine,nicotine and alcohol. Getting more exercise during the day, having a warm milky drink before bed, and herbs such as valerian and camomile can also help.

Additionally the growing body of evidence to support the use of hypnosis techniques simply can not be ignored. Supplement this with items such as a NLP parts integration where “A part of me wants to sleep but a part of me is keeping me awake” along with working with a qualified Hypnotherapist is the first step and the use of hypnotherapy downloads such as offered on this site will certainly enable you to build a more resourceful state and have coping strategies in place so that when the needs arises you have a far more helpful “goto ” state than allowing your mind to run riot and keep you awake all night.

At The Watford & District Hypnotherapy Centre We offer private therapy sessions Monday to Friday between 10:00 and 20:00 and Saturday mornings between 10:00 and 13:00

Our therapy sessions are on average 60 minutes in length and cost is £65.00.Specific number of sessions required is hard if not impossible to state as it is a very individual set of circumstances and responses that bring about the various issues, however we offer a free of charge no obligation initial assesment at which we should be able to assess more closely likely number of sessions required.

Insomnia Beater 5-download hypnosis pack

A selection pack of downloads to help you get a good night’s sleep

It’s now widely known that sleep is at the core of a healthy, happy life. When it goes wrong, everything suffers – your immune system, your mood, your memory, your relationships. It’s perhaps the most basic of needs after food and water.

Each of these 5 deeply relaxing downloads tails gently off at the end to allow you to slip into delicious, rejuvenating sleep. And because you have 5 to choose from, each download will stay fresh, fascinating your brain in just the right way to trigger the natural sleep process.

The Insomnia Beater pack contains five downloads:

• Fall Asleep Fast - re-learn how to let yourself fall asleep
• Drift off to Sleep - a general ‘go to sleep’ session using hypnosis to create the deep relaxation that is the first stage of sleep
• Sleep Like a Child - let yourself experience the worry-free, deep rest of the young
• Cure Insomnia - get out of the habits that prevent sleep from naturally beginning
• Go Back to Sleep - for those times when you’re awake and no-one else is. Get rid of the frustration and let yourself fall asleep again quickly

How to use the Insomnia Beater

As someone who has had sleep problems, you will know which of the above titles will be most useful to you first. Customers have told us that just having the downloads in an mp3 player on their nightstand makes all the difference – just knowing they’re there helps you relax. Once you have used all the downloads, you can vary between them to keep your interest, and continue retraining your sleep response until insomnia is a thing of the past.

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Please put your mind at rest – every download is crafted by our team of 4 experienced hypnotherapists, so you are getting the very best self hypnosis available. With more than 250,000 downloads purchased, we are the world’s largest hypnosis provider. However, we realise that not all downloads work equally well for everybody, so if you find this doesn’t do what you wanted, simply let us know within 90 days and we will refund you in full, no questions asked (One order per customer).

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Inner Conflict

NLP is a powerful set of tools and are wonderfully easy to apply. The skill is in identifying where and when to push on the sore points in our emotional make up. Books can carry you part of the way however there really is no substitution in having these processes applied by a fully qualified NLP practitioner.

The NLP parts integration process can help with items such as Self, Confidence, Anxiety issues, inner critic, Motivation, Self doubts, Smoking cessation, Depression, Shyness & Self Esteem, Anger issues, Relationships…..to name but a few issues

What is the Parts integration process and How can It Help Me?

How many times have you wanted to break a habit yet found yourself helplessly doing it?
How many times have you wanted to take an important decision but felt that you are clueless?

Whether it was a bad habit or an important decision it’s the inner conflict you are experiencing that prevented you form acting the appropriate way. At some points in our lives we may run in to a conflict where a part of us wants to do something while another part of us wants to do the opposite:Have you ever found yourself with the following conflicts?

• To Chocolate or Not to Chocolate: A part of you wants to be fit and to lose weight while another part of you wants to enjoy the taste of the yummy chocolate
• To Exercise or not to exercise: A part of you wants you to become healthier by exercising regularly and another part of you wants you to enjoy relaxing in front of the television
• To Be or not to be: A part of you wants you to quit your job and start your own business while the other part of you wants you to enjoy the current job’s security

Sometimes you may not be able to break a habit just because a part of you wants it. In this case the more you try to break it the more will this part has to hold on to it and so the result will be returning back to the habit without knowing why (yo-yo dieting is a great example of this)

Resolving the Inner Conflict

Even if you managed to ignore the needs of one of your parts you will still suffer from lack of inner integration and you will experience suppressed emotions and unmet desires.

The solution to this dilemma is getting more understanding of those conflicting parts then working on uniting these parts together under a common goal. T

Parts Integration Using NLP

The following are the steps you should follow in order to unite your conflicting parts under one common goal. The technique is taken from NLP and its called parts integration or visual squash. Make sure you read all steps before applying the technique.

Note that you aren’t going to resolve the inner conflict at the conscious level but instead you are going to do it at the unconscious level and that’s why the below steps may require some imagination. (see the subconscious Mind rules for more information on this topic)

Check in with your sub-conscious and ask if the parts are happy to work with you…if not there possibly is a higher level conflict that may need resolution before working on this particular parts integration….yes we can have more than one conflict at any given time.

• Step One, Identify the parts: Hold both of your hands in front of you So that your palms face the ceiling. Look at the first hand and imagine that you are holding the first part on it and try to imagine the shape of the part. Some people see it as a glowing ball, some see it as one of their parents and others see much more weird things so just visualize the shape that makes you most comfortable. Try to notice if the part has a weight or if It has a sound. Do the same for the second part. We are using symbols in here because your subconscious mind thinks using symbols. If you can personalise it this is preferable.
• Ask The first part about its Intention: look at the first part and ask it “why do you want to eat that chocolate?” the answer will be something like “Because I want you to enjoy the taste of chocolate” ask it again, “why do you want me to enjoy the taste?” the answer will be something like “because I want you to be happy”. As you saw you should ask more questions until you determine the highest positive intention of the part
• Ask the Second part about its intention go to the second part and do the same. Your main goal is allowing the two parts to agree on a common goal which was happiness in this case. The more you go up in the hierarchy of intentions the more will you find that parts are agreeing together. One of the base NLP pre-suppositions is “ALL parts have a positive intention….no matter how this may manifest itself” 

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  This may be difficult to realise on yourself, and this is where a professional NLP partitioner is worth their fees..
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• Bring them together:  You will need to traverse some neurological levels (go deeper inside) until you find a common intention. Talk to both parts and tell them that they both have the same intention and that there is no need for any conflict. If you were doing it right from the beginning you will notice that your hands are coming closer and closer until they touch. If your hands touched each other then hold them together firmly and this will send a clear message to your subconscious mind that the conflict was resolved. As a result the next time you won’t find that big resistance when you try to stop eating chocolate.

Motivation direction is also an important part of this process and I always recommend working on this process as well, please read the Motivation post on this blog . We also recommend running through the above process with a fully qualified NLP practitioner, as this is the best way to use the parts integration process and bring resolution from your current issue.

Continue reading »]]> What is Hypnotherapy?

Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy are fast gaining recognition, credibility and popularity as a way to overcome the stresses and strains of modern day living.

Hypnosis can be very effective in dealing with negative thoughts and ideas, distressing feelings, anxiety and stress, (and related conditions such as insomnia, and panic attacks). It is also highly suitable for treating fears, phobias and long-term habits such as smoking and weight problems. It is equally as effective in enhancing and improving areas such as confidence building, public speaking and sports performance.

The best way to think of hypnosis is as a state of deep relaxation and focus. During Hypnosis the conscious mind becomes detached from every day worries and the subconscious part of the mind is more open to suggestion. In this deeply relaxed state which is known as ‘Trance’, the Hypnotherapist can effect changes in long standing thoughts, feelings and behaviour.

What Issues Can Hypnotherapy & Our Other Treatments Help With?

Hypnotherapy, Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Rapid Cognitive Processing (RCP) and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can work extremely well with the following issues. At a one to one session we can discuss you presenting issue in total confidence with you and then chose the most relevant treatment plan.

How does Hypnotherapy work?

To answer that question we first have to think about the human mind. It is generally accepted that the human mind is made up of two sections. For simplicity we can think of it as the conscious mind and subconscious mind.

THE CONSCIOUS MIND
This is the section that helps with our daily decision-making processes. It is proactive, realistic, logical and intelligent. It applies rational thought to enable us to use our experiences to work out how to deal with new situations. However, it is easily overloaded. Essentially, the conscious mind learns how to do things and once learned, then passes it on to the subconscious mind.

THE SUBCONSCIOUS MIND
This, the biggest section of our mind is hidden from our everyday awareness. The subconscious operates on automatic pilot. It is involved with our emotions, imagination and memories as well as with our autonomic nervous system. The autonomic nervous system controls all the workings of our body – the beating of our heart, the respiratory system, digestion, the release of our hormones – in fact everything that our bodies do in order to function – none of which is under our conscious control. It is easy to understand therefore, why the mind affects the body and the body affects the mind. In reality, the mind and body are indivisible.

The subconscious mind is powerful and can deal with many complex instructions at any one time but is not ‘intelligent’. Behaviours and body reactions that are outside our conscious control come from the subconscious. The subconscious mind always has a reason for what it does but the reason may not be easily understood by us and may be outdated or no longer useful to us.

Hypnotherapy enables us to talk directly to the subconscious, persuading it and enabling it to change preconditioned ways of reacting.

What is NLP?

NLP stands for ‘Neuro Linguistic Programming’,‘Neuro’ refers to the mind and how it works, ‘Linguistic’ refers to the language used the way people express themselves and communicate their experience to others, and ‘Programming’ refers to the effect that language has on the mind and on behaviour. In other words it is what was known in my day as ‘Response to Suggestion.’

NLP is based on ‘real life’ behaviour and its main aim is to help people get better at what they do, whether it is in a personal or professional capacity; whether it is to improve personal relationships or be a better salesperson, the list is endless. ‘Excellence in performance’ is one of the goals of NLP and requires the development of skills and the corresponding physical and mental states.

These physical and mental states can be compartmentalised and summarised as follows;
• Motivation
• Learning
• Maintaining good health and fitness
• Communication
• Negotiating
• Public speaking
• Team building
• Change management

What is RCP?

Rapid Cognitive Processing is a comprehensive, integrative psychotherapy approach. It contains elements of many effective psychotherapies in structured protocols that are designed to maximize treatment effects. These include psychodynamic, cognitive behavioural, interpersonal, experiential, and body-centred therapies.

RCP is an information processing therapy and uses an eight phase approach to address the experiential contributors of a wide range of pathologies. It attends to the past experiences that have set the groundwork for pathology, the current situations that trigger dysfunctional emotions, beliefs and sensations, and the positive experience needed to enhance future adaptive behaviours and mental health.

During treatment various procedures and protocols are used to address the entire clinical picture. One of the procedural elements is “dual stimulation” using either bilateral eye movements, tones or taps. During the reprocessing phases the client attends momentarily to past memories, present triggers, or anticipated future experiences while simultaneously focusing on a set of external stimulus. During that time, clients generally experience the emergence of insight, changes in memories, or new associations. The clinician assists the client to focus on appropriate material before initiation of each subsequent set.

What happens at a consultation?

At the first consultation, we will discuss the reason you have decided to seek our help, together with a relevant medical history, and you will be given a full explanation of what to expect from the initial hypnotherapy session and any subsequent follow up sessions. As a Professional Hypnotherapist we give a completely confidential service.

During hypnosis you will be aware of everything that is happening and afterwards will usually be able to remember everything that was said  After the treatment you will be brought back to your normal conscious state at which time you will feel fully refreshed and invigorated.

Some common descriptions of how you feel under hypnosis include:
• Very relaxed
• Heavy
• Numb
• Floating
• Drifting
• Dreamy

Normally the following physical symptoms are noted:
• Slowed breathing
• Lower blood pressure
• Slower heart rate
• Increased / changed circulation
• Less muscular tension

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Continue reading »]]> Confidence Issues.

Low self-esteem is associated with many mental health problems. They can feed off each other in a vicious circle; the more depressed or anxious you become the lower your opinion of yourself and your abilities, the more you avoid activities that could help to build-up esteem and address depression or anxiety. Even if you don’t have a mental health diagnosis, you will recognise the impact that your view of yourself has on your mood and nerves.

Most of the research on low self-esteem has been done by psychologists and the most promising treatment outcomes have been with cognitive-behavioural therapy (a process that helps you to identify how you think interacts with how you feel and what you do as a result).

One of the pioneers is Melanie Fenell, a Clinical Psychologist at the Oxford Cognitive Therapy Centre. Dr Fenell has developed a model of how low self-esteem occurs, is maintained and interacts with depression and anxiety. A simplified version of the model looks like this:

Low self-esteem is associated with many mental health problems. They can feed off each other in a vicious circle; the more depressed or anxious you become the lower your opinion of yourself and your abilities, the more you avoid activities that could help to build-up esteem and address depression or anxiety. Even if you don’t have a mental health diagnosis, you will recognise the impact that your view of yourself has on your mood and nerves.

Most of the research on low self-esteem has been done by psychologists and the most promising treatment outcomes have been with cognitive-behavioural therapy (a process that helps you to identify how you think interacts with how you feel and what you do as a result).

One of the pioneers is Melanie Fenell, a Clinical Psychologist at the Oxford Cognitive Therapy Centre. Dr Fenell has developed a model of how low self-esteem occurs, is maintained and interacts with depression and anxiety. A simplified version of the model looks like this:

This diagram may look daunting but can be understood if you have low self-esteem yourself and can provide valuable insight.

Early experiences

Most self-esteem problems start with an early experience (which could be as late as teenage years) of either failing at some highly valued task, or more tragically by being told that you are not measuring up. Recognising this is valuable and might be helpful for putting the experience into more realistic perspective; but dwelling on it can also make things worse.

Foundation beliefs

The early experience will have been interpreted and its meaning taken deeply to heart as one of your foundational beliefs about yourself, usually concerning your general incompetence; it gets translated into a set of assumptions about how you will fail to cope in specific situations.

Trigger of assumptions

Each of these assumptions about failing to cope is like a little trap waiting to go off when it hits the right trigger, usually a situation that has similarities with the early experience. You immediately expect the worst and all the emotions that come with it, usually anxiety.

Vicious circles

A vicious circle begins with you painfully aware of how much your anxiety about the situation is interfering with your ability to deal with it.

At this point you either withdraw to avoid the trigger; or the anxiety has such an impact that things do go as badly as predicted and your foundation beliefs, assumptions and expectation of the worst are all made stronger. You can see even less of a chance of a way out of the problem and so become depressed and the whole process is repeated when you come across another trigger of assumption.

You may think this cycle cannot be broken, even with this insight, but this isn’t so. The first step is to take the model and put together a version that is unique to you. It helps to get a notebook and draw out something similar to the diagram above, but give yourself a page per box. Sit down and ask yourself a lot of questions, but don’t expect to get it done quickly. You might want to keep a diary over a week or a month to be really clear. If you feel too overwhelmed or too distressed, then stop. You may want to consult your GP and ask to be referred for further help with discussing the issue.

Start by clearly listing your trigger situations first and be really clear about them. Is the trigger:

• A place
• A task
• A person
• A combination of all three
• Is there one situation you do manage to muddle through?
• Is there another you cannot even thinking about facing?

Try to arrange them in order.

Now ask yourself:

• What is it that you are expecting?
• Why does this affect you so badly?
• What happens when you are experiencing anxiety?
• Are you more aware of racing thoughts of disaster or of physical sensations?
• What actually happens in the situation?
• Are you always right to expect the worst?
• How often do you just withdraw?
• What are you not doing as a result and how much does this contribute to your depression?

Try not to make this a list of your life failings and include challenging situations that you do deal with and note how they differ from the difficult situations.

It‘s easy to write down these instructions but they can be harder to follow.

Take your time. You‘re the only person this has to be ‘good enough’ for. If you feel it has to be done perfectly you might start looking at challenging some of your assumptions; if not you might look for some common themes in the triggers and expectations and see if they point to any assumptions that you make about yourself. The key is to establish new assumptions.

To do this, try a series of experiments. First take one of your less difficult situations write down your expectation of the worst and ask how strongly you believe this on a scale of one to ten?

Then ask if there is an alternative way of dealing with the situation and how strongly you believe it between one and ten. Question the thoughts that race through your head, stand back and decide if they are accurate.

Try using some of the anxiety management strategies and try to put yourself in the situation and observe yourself; does the worst happen? If so try to find an easier situation to work on; if not rerate your beliefs in your expectations, have they changed and what are the implications for your assumptions if they have.

By slowly working on the triggers changing your expectations and establishing new assumptions about yourself you can begin to work on improving your self-esteem.

Track the changes in your notebook; and remember there will be some setbacks but they are not the end of the story, and if it gets too difficult seek help through your family doctor.

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Continue reading »]]>  The Fear of Heights

Our Watford therapy centre offers one hour Hypnotherapy, NLP & CBT sessions at £65.00 with thousands of hours of client work we are ideally suited to bring fast, lasting relief for your fear of heights (Acrophobia). Alternatively why not try one of our hypnotherapy downloads for  fear of heights and bring releif from you current physical discomfort….

The fear of heights is defined as Acrophobia . Unlike a specific phobia like acrophobia – fear of flying — and other specific phobias, acrophobia can cause a person to fear a variety of things related to being far from the ground. Depending on the phobia’s severity, an acrophobic person may equally fear being on a high floor of a building or simply climbing a ladder.

Acrophobia and Related Conditions

• Vertigo: True vertigo is a medical condition that causes a sensation of spinning and dizziness. Illyngophobia is a phobia in which the fear of developing vertigo can actually lead to vertigo-like symptoms. Acrophobia can induce similar feelings, but the three conditions are not the same. See a doctor for tests if you experience vertigo symptoms. Medical tests may include bloodwork, CT scans and MRIs, which can rule out a variety of neurological conditions.
• Bathmophobia: Bathmophobia, or the fear of slopes and stairs, is sometimes related to acrophobia. In bathmophobia, you may panic when viewing a steep slope, even if you have no need to climb the slope. Although many people with bathmophobia have acrophobia, most acrophobia sufferers do not also experience bathmophobia.
• Climacophobia: Climacophobia is related to bathmophobia, except that the fear generally occurs only when contemplating making a climb. If you suffer from climacophobia, you are probably not afraid to see a steep set of stairs as long as you can remain safely at the bottom. However, climacophobia may occur in tandem with acrophobia.
• Aerophobia: Aerophobia is the specific fear of flying. Depending on the severity of your fear, you may be afraid of airports and airplanes, or may only feel the fear when in the air. Aerophobia may occasionally occur alongside acrophobia.

Symptoms of Acrophobia

If you experience acrophobia, you may never experience vertigo symptoms. Instead, you may feel a sense of panic when at height. You may instinctively begin to search for something to cling to. You may find that you are unable to trust your own sense of balance. Common reactions include descending immediately, crawling on all fours and kneeling or otherwise lowering the body.

NLP, CBT & Hypnosis Treatment is at Hand,

Try this 20 minute audio download to remove the fear permanently and painlessly.

You may feel like you are the only one that has a fear of heights but it is one of the most common fears.

Yes, it is important that we are wary when up high but for you and many others it is more than that. Even thinking about heights produces a powerful fear response.

I am sure that you have tried to be OK with heights many times. But no matter how hard you try to be calm when up high, anxiety and panic overrides what you’re thinking.

Does even imagining being up high produce fear?

Right now, even just imagining yourself being on a bridge or on the top floor of a building probably fills you with panic. As a therapist many of my clients describe their experiences as feeling ‘frozen’ or getting a sudden and uncontrollable sense of danger.

Be much more comfortable with heights after a single session

I have treated many people who have had a fear of heights all their lives. Just like you they find it gets in the way of doing ‘normal’ things such as travelling, going to the top floor of a building or even climbing up a flight of stairs.

Some people just accept this is a fear they will have for life but let me reassure you that after listening to this download your fear will have disappeared, or at the very least greatly reduced.

Can you imagine not being scared of about heights, and instead feeling calm and comfortable and being able to appreciate the views around you.

The process is pleasant

During workshops and one to one sessions I have used hypnosis to cure fear of heights many many times, along with many other phobias in a quick and comfortable way. Rather than focusing on why this fear has developed I use hypnosis NLP and relaxation to cure fears, usually in just one session.

The Rewind Technique, also known as the ‘fast phobia cure’ has been proven to be a highly effective and reliable method to treat all types of phobias, fears and trauma.

This technique allows you to think about past memories and traumatic experiences in a quick and disjointed way whilst being deeply relaxed. The process works by ‘re training’ your brain to react differently in certain situations. It is called the rewind technique due to the client’s memory of an event or experience being ‘rewinded’ and then fast forward until it becomes non threatening.

My prediction is that after listening to this Fear of Heights download your fear of heights will be permanently removed. And if you have any residual nerves, you can simply use the session again. Fear of heights hypnosis is an ejoyable experience in itself. You will be able enjoy being up high and even those unpleasant past experiences will become simply memories rather than threats.

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Continue reading »]]> Emotional Pain.

Emotional pain in many ways hurts more intensly and for longer periods than physical pain, our hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP 1 on 1 sessions and hypnotherapy downloads  will aide the greiving and healing process.

Our Watford therapy centre offers one hour sessions at £65.00 with thousands of hours of client work we are ideally suited to bring fast, lasting pain relief. Alternatively why not try one of our hypnotherapy downloads for emotional pain relief and bring releif from you current physical discomfort….

To help understand why and how we experience stress and emotional pain, it will help first of all to understand the following three principles:

First Principle
If we believe something we will act as if it is true.

Second Principle
Emotions are not our response to reality they are a response to our interpretation or beliefs about reality.

Third Principle
We are only content when we accept our present experience. (Even if that present experience includes thoughts about the past or an imagined future).

There are two ways to apply this third principle.

We can:

a. Stop wanting our present experience to be different to what it is and be content instantly (unconditional acceptance gives unconditional contentment). Then base decisions on the information (we’ve just accepted) within the current experience.

b. Try and make everything in the world do what we want. Once everything in the world is exactly as we want it to be, we will then be able to stop wanting things to be different (conditional acceptance) and be content.

Most of us are only aware of the existence of option 2, therefore we believe we can only be content if people and events do what we want. All negative emotions have their roots in this belief.

In daily life, this tends to be played out as follows:

When we, people or events behave as we want, we are content or happy. When we, people or events don’t behave as we want, we are unhappy or discontent. This is experienced as emotional discomfort or pain. Therefore we try to control ourselves, people and events to either ‘gain’ happiness or ‘avoid’ pain.

This leads to:

All or nothing thinking, or perfectionism, where we insist that things should be a certain way or they are not acceptable (this is conditional acceptance). This arises because we seem to be punished with emotional pain (discontent) unless we, people and events are exactly as we want them to be.

This fosters the belief that only by controlling people and events, can we feel at peace. Perhaps ‘we’ even get angry with other people, because they have not behaved how they ‘should’ and ‘caused us pain’.

The happy part of this is we have it the wrong way round. Our natural state of mind is actually happiness and contentment. (As in option 3a above).

It is only our efforts to try and control everyone and every thing that causes us pain and perpetuates the illusion that our happiness is dependent on the behaviour of people or events. In fact if you were to let go (of trying to control everything) and accept yourself and life unconditionally you would fall into your natural state.

If for example a person stopped trying to control a person that was ‘making them’ angry, the anger would disappear. Better than that, they are now at peace in themselves which is the contentment they were striving for in the first place.

Realising this, you understand there is nothing to do (or force) to be happy. There is no event or person you have to control, impress (or prove yourself to) in order to be content or avoid pain. What a relief. You can be your natural contented self.

The painful penalty for not realising this can sometimes lead to people getting depressed, despondent or turning to alcohol, drugs, gambling, TV, computer games food, sex, thrill seeking and other distractions in an effort to fulfil a nagging desire for contentment or seek relief from the effort of trying to single-handedly control the entire world all the time.

Put another way when we experience emotional pain it is a signal to us that we have placed the world on our back again. However emotional pain is just a helpful reminder for us to return to sanity. In the same way that physical pain is a helpful reminder to remove our hand from a flame.

Our Watford therapy centre offers one hour sessions at £65.00 with thousands of hours of client work we are ideally suited to bring fast, lasting pain relief. Alternatively why not try one of our hypnotherapy downloads for emotional pain relief and bring releif from you current physical discomfort….

Control your emotions so you can trust them to help you

Have you ever got really worked up about something and then done or said something that you later bitterly regretted? Did you wonder what came over you? Or why you couldn’t control your emotions? Have you noticed that this sort of situation is more likely to occur with certain kinds of emotions, such as anger, or jealousy? Have you begun to worry about how often it happens?

Understanding emotions and emotional control

Everybody has emotions. Emotions are chemical signals fired off by your nervous system in response to what’s going on around you. They let you know how you feel about things – happy, angry, sad, excited, jealous. Whatever it is. And they don’t lie. These instant, instinctive responses of your body to the world are always truthful. But not always right!

The evolution and purpose of emotions – keeping you safe

Why have we evolved emotional responses? Well, the flow of these chemicals through your body, triggered by events and situations around you, gets you doing something. You’ll notice that the word ‘emotion’ contains the word ‘motion’, that is, movement. Emotions are there to induce action.

Basic survival depends on being able to recognise and respond to a threat. If our lives are threatened, we need to fight, or run away. This is our most fundamental emotional response – our ‘fight or flight’ mechanism. It sends a rush of adrenaline around the body, raises your heart rate, stops your digestion, makes your palms sweat. It’s quite uncomfortable, but very effective – in the right circumstances.

Too much emotion overwhelms your judgement

Emotional arousal, in pursuit of its goal of getting you into action, also has an apparently counter-productive effect. If the level of arousal goes beyond a certain point, you literally can’t think straight. The neo-cortex (basically, the part of your brain responsible for rational thinking), is a relatively new development in human evolution. The amygdale, which is the driver of emotional responses, is much ‘older’.

In a crisis situation, when the amygdale identifies a ‘threat’ and triggers an emotional response, it will cut off the neo-cortex and operate at a purely emotional level. In this state, you will see everything in very black-and-white, all-or-nothing terms. You will be absolutely certain of the ‘rightness’ of your position, and nobody attempting to ‘reason’ with you will get anywhere. Sound familiar?

Why the neo-cortex gets sidelined by emotion

At first sight, it’s a puzzle why our inbuilt defence mechanism shuts down thinking capacity in a crisis. Surely this is when we need it most? But in the primitive life or death situations in which this mechanism evolved, ‘thinking about things’ would not be very useful. Snap decisions and instant action are what is called for.

So if the amygdale senses a threat to life, it shuts down all other processes (appetite, digestion, sex drive, immune system – and thinking) and focuses on immediate survival.

Primitive emotional responses don’t match the times

And now you’re wondering what’s the matter with your amygdale. Nobody is threatening your life, are they? (I hope!) The good news is that your amygdale is functioning just as it should. But the world in which it is functioning is now very different. There may not be a sabre-toothed tiger waiting to pounce on you, but if your boss is about to haul you over the coals, you may feel just like your ancestor suddenly seeing the tiger.

What’s happening is that your amygdale is responding to the sense of threat. It’s a primitive mechanism, and can’t distinguish one type of threat from another. It’s just threat. To distinguish between threats, and respond appropriately, you need your neo-cortex, with its reasoning powers.

But how do you prevent your neo-cortex from being put out of action by emotion?

How to put your neo-cortex in control of your emotions

Emotions are a very valuable part of being human, and enrich our lives immensely. Without them, we would be dull robots indeed. But they can run away with us unless we learn to keep them in check. A happy balance between reason and emotion can be struck by learning how to calm down emotional arousal. This allows you to have your feelings and still be able to think clearly.

Using hypnosis to create a new ‘template’ for controlling emotion

Hypnotic relaxation is your fastest route to calming down all kinds of emotional arousal. Control your emotions will allow you to experience and master the art of deep relaxation – which will automatically reduce arousal.

Control your emotions gives you the tools you need to become the ‘master of your ship’ – able to access all the drive and energy you need to take action, but also able to determine just what action is really appropriate calmly and objectively. You will build up a new instinctive template for response to crisis and challenge which makes the best use of your emotional responses.

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It is a little known fact that hypnosis is very effective in relieving and controlling pain, and the use of hypnosis to manage pain must therefore be approached with extreme caution. We know about hypnotherapy’s effectiveness as a pain management tool largely through the research and publications of Ernest Hillgard, former emeritus Professor of Psychology at Stanford University, who used a control research group to show that hypnosis was highly effective in managing pain.

Pain Management

One of the major considerations for therapists should be that they do not use hypnosis to relieve pain unless the cause of that pain is already known and has been diagnosed by a general practitioner Pain can be a symptom of an underlying condition, for example, a persistent headache could be a symptom of a brain tumour. If the therapist were to treat the headache in this example, before the root cause of the pain was known, then this could lead to the brain tumour not being diagnosed for longer. However, if the patient had already been to their doctor and more serious causes of the headaches had been eliminated, then it would be fine for the hypnotherapist to proceed.

If you know the source of your pain and need to treat it, Our Watford therapy centre offers one hour sessions at £65.00 with thousands of hours of client work we are ideally suited to bring fast, lasting pain relief. Alternatively why not try one of our hypnotherapy downloads for pain relief and bring releif from you current physical discomfort….

Treating pain with hypnosis – when can it be done?

Pain should never be treated for its own sake, but if the underlying cause is known and your doctor gives permission, hypnosis can be very effective in relieving pain. Hypnotherapy is used in a variety of situations for treating pain, including the following:

• Post-operative pain – where traditional painkillers aren’t appropriate, perhaps because the patient is afraid needles or allergic to medication.
• Phantom limb pain – amputees sometimes experience pain from limbs which have been removed, and research has shown that hypnosis has had impressive results in treating this kind of pain.
• Palliative care – some hypnotherapists work with terminally ill patients to manage their pain and improve their quality of life. NB this is a specialism and not all hypnotherapists are happy to work with the terminally ill.

Hypnosis has been used for pain relief for centuries, and even today is widely used in surgical procedures. How does it work? By changing the way your brain interprets and responds to pain signals.

It is always important to check out what is causing any pain you may experience, as this is your body’s way of alerting you to problems and making you take care of yourself. But once it has served its purpose and you have taken or are taking the right course of action to deal with the problem, there is no need for you to endure more pain.

Some of the hypnosis downloads for pain relief that you see on our downloads page focus on specific types of pain, while others are more about pain management in general.

Hypnosis for pain is tried and tested and safe – you can give it a try today.

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Hypnodieting is the non-diet diet program that shows you how to control your attitude to food and how to gain complete control over how you look and how you feel. With the Hypnodieting Programme, you will find that you can lose weight naturally and understand how to keep it off permanently.

Whether you’ve tried “everything” before and been unable to keep weight off, or if this is the very first time that you have decided to lose weight; you’ll discover that the Hypnodieting Programme is very different from the “usual” weight-loss methods.

With Hypnodieting we look closely at the existing relationship that you have with food and then address the issues that may have previously prevented you from losing weight and keeping it off.

And there are many other benefits too! Following the Hypnodieting Programme helps you become more pro-active and motivated;  leading to a gradual change in lifestyle that will result in permanent weight-loss and a much greater feeling of self-esteem and purpose.

Spending years trying different ‘miracle’ diets and constantly fighting a losing battle with your body takes a heavy toll on your self-esteem. Being happy with your body is about being happy with yourself; and Hypnodieting understands this!

When you first join a Hypnodieting program, you will undergo a thorough and in-depth consultation with your trained Hypnodieting Consultant. They will explain to you in great detail how Hypnodieting can help to eliminate that endless conflict between your imagination and your will. This means ending the frustration that you feel when you know what you ‘ought’ to do, but ‘just can’t do it’Over a course of typically six sessions, you will be encouraged and supported as you develop and maintain a sound new relationship with food and a new healthy attitude to eating. Hypnodieting will show you interesting and exciting new ways to re-establish the body’s natural weight control processes that are so often sabotaged by harsh diet regimes. And day by day your confidence and self-esteem will grow as you begin to establish wonderful new habits – the new Hypnodieting habits that will boost your metabolism and allow your body to naturally begin to shed excess weight.

Your personal Hypnodieting Program will be strictly confidential and sessions are always conducted one-to-one. There is no ‘off-the-shelf’ system – everything is about you as an individual. Our experienced and understanding Hypnodieting Consultants are all Professional Clinical Hypnotherapists trained and certified to deliver the unique Hypnodieting Program. They will make your life-changing Hypnodieting experience an empowering and wonderfully enjoyable journey.

In addition to our face to face Hypnodieting session we also offer our hypnosis downloads program to supplement your hypnotherapy weight loss program.

Program your mind to reveal your perfect body.

Every body has the potential to be a perfect body. And so everybody has the potential to have a perfect body. This is not just a play on words. The human form, as we know it today, is the product of millions of years of evolution, honing and refining form and function. And when it is given the right conditions to flourish, it is truly a wonder to behold. And a joy to live in.

Nature’s rules of perfection – inheritance and environment

There are two critical factors in the revelation of the perfect body. The first is its relationship with nature, with the physical world in which it exists. What are the conditions in which it lives? Does it receive sufficient clean air? Light? Water? A good variety of nutritious food to provide energy and maintain health? Does the environment provide good opportunities for energetic exercise and restful relaxation?

When you look at the animal world, it is clear that this physical aspect is the only determining factor in whether you see a lion, or a dog, or a bird, or any other creature, with the attributes of perfection. Perfection of form is the result of a happy balance between a creature’s natural genetic traits and the conditions in which it lives. When this balance is in place, perfection may almost be considered the norm.

Why perfection is not so simple for human beings

But when it comes to humans, the second critical factor comes into play. Unlike other animals, the ultimate body of the human being depends for its expression on the human mind. You see, your body is a statement about who you areminded to be. It is an expression of your self-respect, your self-discipline, your relationship with yourself. And all of that hugely influences your attractiveness – your sex appeal – to others.

So even if all the environmental factors are in place, or can be put in place, to allow your body to be the best it can be,you still need to engage with caring for it. You need to actively make the best of all the opportunities in your environment, so that your body can reach its full potential.

Easy to say. But you are certainly fully aware how hard it is to do.

Getting over the barriers to perfection with hypnosis

You hardly need to have someone point out the cultural and economic pressures which push us into leading such unhealthy lives. Or to tell you that our idea of ‘perfection’ can get seriously distorted by media images or our own obsessions. Or how hard it is to resist the temptation to get distracted from our real goals and take the easy way out. Which is why you know that to get the perfect body you need something ‘extra’.

Get your perfect body is a powerful audio hypnosis session which will lift you out of that rut and give you the inner vision and drive to go for the difference that matters. As you relax deeply your mind will open to an utterly compelling vision of your best physical self. You will be like a sculptor working in stone – with a perfect image in your mind of the wonderfully proportioned form you are going to bring forth.

Download Get your perfect body and align yourself with nature’s plan.

 

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Please put your mind at rest – every download is crafted by our team of 4 experienced hypnotherapists, so you are getting the very best self hypnosis available. More than 250,000 downloads purchased, we are the world’s largest hypnosis provider. However, we realise that not all downloads work equally well for everybody, so if you find this doesn’t do what you wanted, simply let us know within 90 days and we will refund you in full, no questions asked (One order per customer).

 

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Why you can relax about buying from Hypnosis Downloads…

Please put your mind at rest – every download is crafted by our team of 4 experienced hypnotherapists, so you are getting the very best self hypnosis available. With over  250,000 downloads purchased, we are the world’s largest hypnosis provider. However, we realise that not all downloads work equally well for everybody, so if you find this doesn’t do what you wanted, simply let us know within 90 days and we will refund you in full, no questions asked (One order per customer).